Friend: Do you have time to talk?
You: Sure! What’s up?!
Friend: I need help. I can’t live like this any more…..
What you just read is the start of a very powerful conversation! When a friend confide in us about their insecurities and vulnerabilities, they are giving a part of themselves that has been hiding for quite some time. This is not something to be taken lightly!
When someone trusts us with their deepest thoughts, we need to understand the extreme amount of trust they have put on us.
So what do we do next?
All we have to do is listen. Don’t just hear them, but truly listen!
Maybe all they need is to get something off their chest, but what happens when the problem is deeper? As I like to say, I’ll walk with you until you find your way. What this means is that I cannot fix your problem. I’m just a caring friend. What I can do however is be with you until you find something that works, whether it be a therapist, or a steady program; I will be with you until you a professional you mesh with!
This is truly all we can do for someone. We cannot offer professional advice, but we can let our brothers and sisters know what we went through, what worked for us, and what didn’t. We are essentially cheerleaders for their emotional well-being.
You: Thank you so much for trusting me enough to share that. Finding the strength to let that out had to be tough! I just want you to know I’m here for you!
Friend: Yeah… I have been struggling for so long to get that out, but something has to give.
You: well, I’m no professional, but this is what worked for me. It may not be a perfect route for you, after all, it took me several trials to find someone I fit with, but I’ll be here for you until you find your way!